Just over two months ago (30.10.13) our beautiful baby boy Ashton was stillborn at 38 weeks. Naturally, I have been offline since our tragedy. We have had wonderful support from family and dear friends during this intense grieving period. I’ll always be extremely grateful for the loving support, space, hugs and heartfelt correspondences (and dinners, plants, flowers, etc. etc.) As the fog is slowly lifting I wanted to share our awful news with you, dear reader. My PLN, twitter friends, Libraryland people and online buddies have always extended the kindest of support to me, most excellent wife J. and Belle (AKA #GeeBee). During this pregnancy was no exception. So I wanted to you to know why I have been quiet online, and more importantly, what’s been going on in the Greenhouse.
HOW CAN YOU HELP?
Most people are asking, in their own way, what can they do? What do we need?
We have truly felt solace and comfort from thoughts and prayers; spoken, written and otherwise. For us, it is important to talk about Ash with people because it acknowledges his too short and extremely important life. Communicating with us about a tragedy like this is sometimes too difficult for people, and we completely understand this. I feel and appreciate these people’s thoughts and prayers equally. To save others from living with such a loss, we are raising money for research into stillbirth. My family, and others, would be very grateful for any donation you could spare. Please visit: https://give.everydayhero.com/au/ashton-lamond-phillip-green
THANK YOU so much to those loving folk who have already donated ☺
And thank you dear reader for your support.
May 2014 bring you love, positivity and good health.
GeeBee has been completely getting into playing with toy babies recently. Here she is trying hard to buckle “Bay-bee” (as she calls her) into her high chair. It’s a super-cute phase she’s entering; lots of cuddles & feeding baby. She also pats Mummy’s tummy & says “Bay-bee!”
Thankfully most excellent wife J. is pregnant.
In case you didn’t know:
- 2012 is the National Year of Reading in Australia! Read more here.
- We have a new daughter! Read more here.
So, now that you’re up to speed, I’d love to share my recent Amazing Read. The super-fun twitter reading group Love2Read encourage monthly themed reads and then discussions on twitter, blogs, face-to-face, etc. January was The Amazing Read and you can check out the twitterchat reading recommendations here. I love this theme, but I wasn’t sure what to blog about… Should I rave about Blankets : a graphic novel – which was, ahem, amazing – or another of my January reads that I list here? So I re-read the January theme suggestions and this is what stood out me:
Your amazing read may also be about how you are reading (game, book, e-book reader, tablet, scroll…) what language you are reading in, who you are reading with or to, or even where you are reading (back yard, bed, park, train, bushland, on a boat…)
Suddenly it hit me, I have been reading TO MY DAUGHTER!
File that under: Amazing.
My blog tagline reads “Libraries & Learning. (Occasional other loves.)” As yet I have not posted anything under the category ‘other loves’. Until recently I had envisaged occasionally blogging about my other loves which included music, acting and the theatre, art, online performance and social media art happenings, photography, and chronicling personal challenges, growths and goals. Just to name the big ones, and omitting my most excellent wife J. Anyone who follows me on twitter may have seen the hashtag #GeeBee. GeeBee came from G. B. which stands for Green Bean. Green is our name and Bean was for growing baby.
Now I am overwhelmingly, enormously proud to declare my latest and greatest ‘other love’; our beautiful daughter, Belle Emma Green.
Belle arrived safely on her due date (!) 22.12.11 and her mother J. did an AMAZING job. I am extremely blessed, thankful and relieved that Belle and J. are safe and healthy. I don’t believe there are words to explain how truly awesome most excellent wife J. was during the labour and birth. Put it this way: she was fully dilated when we arrived at hospital – as in 10cm and ready to push! – and never once did she mention she may not be able to ‘do it’ or even that the pain was too much. Most excellent wife J. is an amazing woman, who – and I didn’t think this was possible – I love even more than I did before she triumphantly carried and gave birth to our dear Belle. I am forever in J.’s debt, and to the Universe, for blessing us with #GeeBee.
The day when a hashtag became a human was monumental; an unequivocal life-changer.